Dating Advice for Women -How to Catch Him by Never Getting Caught
Dating, boiled down, is a question of being able to make someone want something. How to make someone want something is not something we often think about, however, it is something we NEED to think about if you really want to make attraction WORK for you.
Not many among us are born with the true gift of gab, like salespeople have. We cannot effectively sell something, describing its intrinsic value and convincing them that they cannot live without it. You are not an item, either, that can be offered with a free trial or money back guarantee.
What makes an individual place value on an item most of the time is rarity. Think about a precious gem for instance. Emeralds, rubies, diamonds - they cost so much because they are not easily accessible. They must be looked for, found, dug up. Because of that, they are highly valued and treasured. I, for one, want to be a diamond!
What you need to understand is that you ARE the precious gem. If you want to remain appealing and exciting to a guy, you need to imagine yourself as priceless, extraordinary and WANTED. Remember the last thing you just HAD to have? Maybe it was some new gadget like an iPod or a new Juke phone. You thought about it all the time, you were totally psyched to get it and thought the price was certainly worth it. Then after you had it for a while, it was still great, but you thought about it less and less until you finally either forgot about it or use it without even realizing it.
Getting what you want snuffs out the attraction of the item. So - think about this in terms of attracting a man. If you give him what he wants, if you let him “catch” you too soon, the thrill of the chase is over, he has you, and the attraction will begin to fade.
So what you need to do to create attraction for your date is to think of yourself as a wild animal, unable to be captured. Most women, though, WANT to be captured! As funny as that sounds, to many women, the idea of being caught and “tamed” is sexy and alluring - they like the idea of the strength that represents for a man. However - if you want to keep HIM attracted, you need to lead him on a merry chase.
All well and good - but how do you DO that? Try taking a look at the things that tell a man you are HIS. First of all - sex. There are few things that say to a woman “I am in a relationship” more than sex. To a man, however, this is not the case. To him, sex is sex. So - don’t give to him for free what has HUGE VALUE to you. Don’t have sex with him until you are SURE you have a relationship!
You can also do things like keeping him on his toes by ending a conversation a little too soon. That may seem very strange - but think about it. It will leave him hanging, and thinking about, and anticipating the next time he will talk to you. This is GREAT for attraction.
Another thing that you can do is to not be available when calls. Wait a couple hours to call him back, or if you can stand it, until the next day. You can even carry that over to when he asks you for date. Don’t settle for the first date he tells you. If he suggests you go out on Thursday, tell him y9ou are busy that night, but how about Saturday instead? Do you see what I mean here?
Always keep in the back of your mind that scarcity creates value with anything, and the same is certainly true with dating and relationships. Make yourself more valuable by being a little stingy with your company at times and you will keep him coming back for more. Remember, too, that this same tactic can be used in relationships to maintain your natural attraction levels.